Mastering Your Facial Expressions: A Guide to Effective Non-Verbal Communication

Have you ever been given feedback that you always look angry, even when you’re not? Facial expressions play a critical role in your overall appearance, setting the mood and tone of a conversation, and your ‘reputation’. As an image consultant and communication coach, I work with clients all over to help them master the strategies of nonverbal communication, from body language to facial expressions, to help my clients convey the right message through their expressions, especially in challenging situations.

The Power of Facial Expressions

Non-verbal communication is vital in any interaction. Our facial expressions relay a message to those we are surrounded by about our thoughts and emotions before we even speak. By mastering your facial expressions, you can enhance your communication skills and create more positive interactions. 

Our words have power, but our facial expressions do too! Think about a friend who tells you she loves something, but as she says it, she scrunches up her nose and lips and squints, do you believe her? Of course not! Nonverbal communication makes up more than 70% of your communication, and if you are on the road to creating a more positive and assertive communication style that is respectful and inclusive, or if you have been given feedback that you have a specific kind of resting face, then this article is for you. Here are some tips for you to help you balance your nonverbal communication through your facial expressions. 

Start with Awareness

With our facial expressions accounting for such a large portion of our communication, it's crucial to be mindful of the messages they convey. Being aware of how your expressions may be perceived is key to effective communication! Which brings me to my first strategy. The first step to improving your facial expressions is becoming aware of them. Pay attention to how your face responds in different situations. Awareness helps you recognize the expressions that might be sending the wrong message. 

Identify Your Tells

Everyone has unique facial "tells" that give away their true feelings. Here’s how to identify yours:

• Review Recordings: Record yourself during conversations and review the footage. This can help you spot recurring expressions.
• Mirror Practice: Spend time talking to yourself in front of a mirror. Notice your expressions and how they change with different emotions.
• Get Feedback: Ask a trusted friend or coach to observe you and give honest feedback about your facial expressions.

Expert Tip: When faced with difficult information, take a moment before reacting. This pause can help you manage your facial expressions better.

Perfect Your Neutral Face

Your neutral face should appear relaxed and engaged. Here’s how to achieve that:

• Stay Relaxed and Open: Keep your facial muscles relaxed and your expression open and approachable.
• Avoid Negative Expressions: Avoid frowning or scowling, which can be misinterpreted as negative or hostile.
• Use Positive Body Language: Incorporate supportive body language, such as leaning in slightly and nodding, to show engagement and interest.

Practice: Regular practice in front of a mirror or by reviewing recordings of yourself can help you maintain a neutral, yet interested, expression naturally.

Be Aware of Your Eyes

Your eyes are incredibly powerful in conveying emotions. Your eyes alone can sometimes be misinterpreted as showing irritation or unhappiness.

• Learn to Smile with Your Eyes: Your eyes naturally change when you smile, but to make this expression more visible, you may need to exaggerate slightly. Practice this to avoid appearing insincere.
• Show Empathy with Your Eyes: Expressing emotions through your eyes is a valuable skill. You can do this by maintaining soft eye contact, allowing your eyes to convey warmth and understanding. Relax your brow, avoid narrowing your eyes, and think about the emotion you want to express – your eyes will reflect your thoughts. 

Practice and Experiment

• Record Yourself: Video yourself speaking to see what your eyes and face are communicating. 
• Experiment with Expressions: Try different expressions like frustration, happiness, apathy, and surprise. Observe how they look and feel. 
• Overcome Discomfort: Practicing these skills may feel awkward at first, but like any new skill, it becomes easier with time.

Seek Professional Guidance

If you're looking to take your skills to the next level, consider one-on-one coaching. Personalized feedback and strategies can significantly improve your non-verbal communication. Learn more about my one-on-one coaching sessions.

Managing your facial expressions is a powerful tool for effective communication. Whether you're striving for a neutral expression or aiming to project positivity, practice and self-awareness are essential.